Most parents worried about their child behavior when they started to behave ‘badly’. Why is this happen? Is it normal? How should we handle the situation?
These are some questions that most parents think every time their children behave badly. No worries...these behaviors are normal to all children at the age of two to five. Understanding basic reason on why they behaving in such a way will assist parents on how to react to the situation.
1. Why your children are become more demanding?
It’s simply an act of ‘sense of control’. They want to stress that they have their right to demand what they want, how they want it and when they want it! These are how they exercise their right just like adult!
2. Is this behavior normal?
This is normal child growing development. At these ages, they want parents to treat them like adult. They will also imitate adult behavior such as drinking in a cup, using fork and spoon, read books and more. If parents fail to treat them the way they wanted to, they will protest and demand us to follow what they want! This should signal parents that your child is growing. They will sometimes refuse hugs and kisses; simply to portray that they are ‘independent’.
3. How should parents react to such behavior?
No matter what ever reason make your child behave badly, parents has to stay CONSTANT in discipline them. Tell them clearly what is black and what is white so that they know what behavior is acceptable and what are not. Never give them gray area where sometime you say No and sometime you say Yes. If your child shout to show protest, show tantrum, throw things and more; parents have to explain to them that such behavior is unacceptable and continue doing so will get punishment. However, never punish your child more than just a soft ‘clap’ on their palm or butt. But, keep on explaining to them why such behavior is unacceptable. Over time, they will know what is expected from them. At these ages, explanation is the BEST mechanism to discipline children. Punishment is just to show your strictness in making your stand, nothing more!
These are some questions that most parents think every time their children behave badly. No worries...these behaviors are normal to all children at the age of two to five. Understanding basic reason on why they behaving in such a way will assist parents on how to react to the situation.
1. Why your children are become more demanding?
It’s simply an act of ‘sense of control’. They want to stress that they have their right to demand what they want, how they want it and when they want it! These are how they exercise their right just like adult!
2. Is this behavior normal?
This is normal child growing development. At these ages, they want parents to treat them like adult. They will also imitate adult behavior such as drinking in a cup, using fork and spoon, read books and more. If parents fail to treat them the way they wanted to, they will protest and demand us to follow what they want! This should signal parents that your child is growing. They will sometimes refuse hugs and kisses; simply to portray that they are ‘independent’.
3. How should parents react to such behavior?
No matter what ever reason make your child behave badly, parents has to stay CONSTANT in discipline them. Tell them clearly what is black and what is white so that they know what behavior is acceptable and what are not. Never give them gray area where sometime you say No and sometime you say Yes. If your child shout to show protest, show tantrum, throw things and more; parents have to explain to them that such behavior is unacceptable and continue doing so will get punishment. However, never punish your child more than just a soft ‘clap’ on their palm or butt. But, keep on explaining to them why such behavior is unacceptable. Over time, they will know what is expected from them. At these ages, explanation is the BEST mechanism to discipline children. Punishment is just to show your strictness in making your stand, nothing more!
